Want to combat a hectic life?

Want to combat a hectic life?

WANTED! (by the FBE) THE HECTIC LIFESTYLE       The Federal Bureau of Enlightenment (“FBE”) asks your help in apprehending The Hectic Lifestyle.   CRIMES COMMITTED: Kidnapping the tools of enjoyment (i.e. cameras, musical instruments, art supplies, dance shoes, etc.) and holding them hostage deep in the cluttered closets, drawers, attics and basements of citizens throughout the world; Leaving victims without time to play; and Disorienting them from their souls. DESCRIPTION: Length: 24 Hours Weight: Heavy Complexion: Dark Last Seen: Today. Often found traveling in packs of days, weeks, months and sometimes years. Disguised as: Anything done to please others above self.   Victims of these crimes are asked to spend time forgiving themselves for being charmed by The…

Feeling the Need to Stretch?

Feeling the Need to Stretch?

Sure, you stretch all the time. You stretch your muscles, you stretch your paycheck, and sometimes you might even stretch the truth a bit. But when was the last time you stretched, I mean REALLY stretched, to reach a goal that seemed wildly impossible to achieve? That long, huh? Well, kudos to you if this has happened recently, say within the past year, because it takes a lot of courage to reach for the seemingly impossible dream. But if you’ve been putting off your dreams for years, or even decades, what’s been holding you back? The usual suspect, fear? And how’s that working for you? Let me guess, you feel like you’re stuck, right? “But hey, it’s safe here in…

Who do you appreciate?

Who do you appreciate?

This year I was privileged to be on the field for football’s biggest game’s halftime show, when Lady Gaga performed. She’s dreamed about performing at the Big Game since she was 4 years old. Millions of people saw Lady Gaga’s performance on television, as a hundred performers supported her with dance moves and display lights. Maybe you were one of them? But what you didn’t see was that Lady Gaga gave each supporting performer a single red rose wrapped in cellophane with a tag that simply said “Love, Gaga”. I discovered this while watching a teenage performer exit the half-time show dressing room cradling her single rose, while wearing a smile on her face and a sparkling twinkle in her…

Have you Lost the Spark?

Have you Lost the Spark?

Just after moving to a new home, Brenda discovered the gas stove didn’t work. Some maintenance had been done prior to her moving in that required the gas to be shut off. The gas company was supposed to turn the gas back on the previous day, but hadn’t. The main pilot light was out. There was no gas to cook with or to take a hot shower. Interestingly, this occurred at the same time Brenda had also lost the spark in her career. While everything else in her life was flourishing, Brenda’s passion for her career started to lose its sizzle. The pilot light had gone out there too. And in truth, there’s a little bit of self-sabotage that begins…

Who are you Rescuing?

Who are you Rescuing?

Over the holidays I treated myself to a lobster dinner. It reminded me of a lobster I encountered many years ago. Back then, I had a lobster for dinner whose outer shell was so tough and hardened from the winter that we had to get a hammer to crack it open in order to extract the delicious meat. We must have wrestled with that lobster for 20-30 minutes before we were rewarded with the tasty meal of tender seafood inside. Maybe you’ve experienced something or someone like this before. You may have even dined with them over the holidays. Usually it shows up as stubbornness. You know what I mean. Someone you know is experiencing certain challenges, maybe with their…

Give Yourself a Holiday Gift

Give Yourself a Holiday Gift

Are you one of those people who buys a holiday gift for someone, while also treating yourself to a present? “One for them, one for me!” Sound familiar? This year instead of giving yourself presents, try receiving the gift of presence. It’s always there for the taking, but you may not be aware of it. It’s the simple act of paying attention to what’s going on in the present moment. “Creativity occurs in the moment, and in the moment we are timeless.” -Julia Cameron Presence is a gift you can enjoy all year long and it doesn’t cost a thing. In fact, it may even lighten your load. Want to see how this works? Julie hired a nutritionist to lose…

The Buzz from the Bees

The Buzz from the Bees

Recently, my husband and I have been dealing with a beehive that has nestled into our tree. We hired professionals to treat the problem, only to find the bees continued to swarm. Soon after, our neighbor was stung. The professionals returned and again claimed victory. We thought the problem was solved. But it wasn’t. The pros told us the tree needed to come down. So down it went, leaving only a tree stump exposing the remains of the hive. I bet you can guess what happened next. Yup. The bees returned. Believe it or not, the next day, we found an army of ants invading our kitchen. They marched in a line that led straight from the outdoors. So we…

Look Who’s Hiding Now!

Look Who’s Hiding Now!

While relaxing on the back patio this week, we noticed something peering out from underneath the outdoor furniture cover. It was a gecko. The gecko kept looking from side to side to see if it was OK to come from beneath the tarp. I found this to be funny, because I’ve spent the better part of the past two years trying to quiet my inner lizard. “What’s an inner lizard?” you ask? You’re probably more acquainted with your inner lizard than you may realize. Martha Beck coined the term “inner lizard” and teaches the concept in her book “Steering by Starlight”.  It’s another way of describing the deepest layers of our brains that first evolved in reptiles. Its purpose is…

Trust Yourself

Trust Yourself

I remember reaching a crossroads in my life twenty years ago. I had grown tired of the city I was living in. All my friends were getting married and having kids, but I was immersed in my career – both of them – at the time. While my friends were settling down, I was becoming more adventurous. Suddenly, out of the blue, I received an offer from my company to move across the country, leaving everything familiar behind. When you’re at a crossroads, it can be hard to make a decision. “What if” questions stir up fears about the future. What if it doesn’t work out? What if I made a mistake? What if I find myself all alone? Those…

Right Before Your Eyes

Right Before Your Eyes

  While indulging in my guilty pleasure of reading People magazine, I learned Renee Zellweger, who’s been out of the spotlight for several years, has been dating a longtime friend for 4 years. Despite knowing each other for years, their romance didn’t begin until mid-life. Coincidentally, a friend filled me in on her own new romance with a guy who’s been in her life platonically for at least 10 years. For whatever reason, they never connected on a romantic level until now. Or was there a reason? In the case of Renee Zellweger, her work schedule left little time for self-care or a personal life, which ultimately led to burnout. She exited, stage left. She removed herself from the spotlight….