forking-road-839830_640I remember reaching a crossroads in my life twenty years ago. I had grown tired of the city I was living in.

All my friends were getting married and having kids, but I was immersed in my career – both of them – at the time. While my friends were settling down, I was becoming more adventurous.

Suddenly, out of the blue, I received an offer from my company to move across the country, leaving everything familiar behind.

When you’re at a crossroads, it can be hard to make a decision. “What if” questions stir up fears about the future.

What if it doesn’t work out? What if I made a mistake? What if I find myself all alone?

Those fears can paralyze you.

Here’s one of my favorite quotes:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

-Steve Jobs

We get caught up in the future, but success is born in the present moment.

How do you break away from future thinking?

One way is to connect the dots in your own life by telling your personal story backwards.

Start with where you are today in any area of your life. Go backwards in time through all the experiences, people, and things that came along to get you there.

As you reflect, consider the decision points along the way. Think about how those steps led to other actions or experiences that brought you to this point right now.

Notice how you feel, as you reflect backward and see how the dots connect.

My guess is that things worked out OK, but you can tell me where I’m wrong.

Remember, as author Stephen Covey used to say, “Success is a journey, not a destination”.

Trust the dots will connect and you’ll pass through the crossroads toward success.

Trust Yourself

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